Rating Relationships
So it’s happened, after endless months of texting, passing notes under the table, flirting over facebook you’ve finally managed to get with the guy/girl that you’re sure is just perfect for you, and even better is the fact that he/she feels the same way about you! Result! You’re on cloud 9, nothing can bother you, so what if your day consist of triple P.E and that ice cream you were saving for your night in has been scoffed by your younger sibling, you’ve got those rose tinted glasses on nothing going to knock that smile off your face, and in your eyes the world looks well rosy!
It’s perfectly normal to feel like this in the beginning of the relationship. The 'honeymoon period'. But this can become a problem when those rose tinted glasses turn into truth preventing blinkers, stopping you from seeing that this perfect relationship is in fact perfectly unhealthy.
A relationship can only work if you and your partner treats each other with mutual respect. Do they constantly remind you of how amazing you are and why? Or do they try and change you into something you’re not. If you’re a tom boy kinda girl that doesn’t wear makeup and your partner is trying to get you to wear more make up than Katie Price, you know you’ve got problems!
Equally if you’re a hoody and track suit guy and your significant other tries to get you to embrace skinny jeans and piercings... then something’s not right. Relationships are all about trust, happiness and compromise, so you shouldn’t be unhappy in a relationship or have to change yourself/personality to ensure your partner is happy.
What you have to remember is your BF/GF should be into you for WHO YOU ARE, your unique little ways that make you irresistible! Respect is another important factor in relationships. Does your partner back off when you make it clear you’re not comfortable doing something? Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands — and would never challenge — the other person's boundaries.
You’ve just come out of your math’s class and your boyfriend catches you chatting to a guy. How does he react? Does he give you a look, lose his cool and accuse you of being love rat of the year? Or does he walk past and not react because he trusts you. It’s O.k. to be a little jealous; it’s a natural emotion and everyone feels it at some point. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters.
There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other.
All relationships are different. But respect and trust in my opinion are the main formation of having a healthy happy lasting relationship.
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1 Comment – Postiwch sylw
SwooshMe
Rhoddwyd sylw 22 mis yn ôl - 6th July 2010 - 17:03pm
Happy healthy relationships should be a pleasure and exciting. Definately not a task, a bore or something to be frightened of. Always be yourself too, if your partner is trying to changing you - then something is wrong!